Although I educate about consent, I imagine we should always have the next customary for our sexual encounters.
Oxford Languages’ definition of consent is “permission for one thing to occur or settlement to do one thing.” Form of weak, no? It doesn’t precisely sound just like the state of somebody who’s burning with ardour and longing.
How about want: “a robust feeling of eager to have one thing or wishing for one thing to occur”? That, to me, is what we should always anticipate from our sexual encounters.
In different phrases, be sure you’re doing what you want, not what you’re simply OK with. And ensure your associate is clearly wanting the identical.
In wholesome sexual encounters, each individuals actively need to have interaction in no matter’s going down. When one individual is wanting it and the opposite’s merely agreeing to it, there’s an imbalance.
Everybody deserves sexual companions who’re involved not simply with getting what they need themselves, however listening to their associate’s wishes, needs, likes, and dislikes.
That goes for any associate you’ll ever have, and it goes for you.